Edwardsmom, there is a very good reason why those kids aren't telling their dad all those things. They don't want to hurt him. Kids makes mistakes. A lot of them. But that's how they learn. They don't want to hurt or disappoint him.
That's completely natural. For example, I am extremely close with my mother and have been for most of my life. We know many secrets about each other, but there are certain things that I never want her to know. Not because I'm a bad person, but because our frames of reference differ! We feel differently about certain things because we were raised in different worlds.
And the question of whether they will turn into screw-ups or not, we were all screw-ups at some point in our lives. And thankfully, most of our parents were there for us through it all.
I am 24 years old and one of four children. My older brother had ADHD, my sister had special needs and on top of all that, my dad is a doctor with his own practice, so he was never there to help out.
I always knew that I wanted children, but I certainly don't want four. For the simple reason that I feel we didn't get enough individual attention. I don't blame them remotely and I completely understand, so I don't want to do it.
In August this year, I started my dream job and broke up with my bf. So besides knowing that I want to have children, there is still the world of time and I'll only get more yorkies until then. But I think it would be awesome to be a mom.
