There is a vast difference between "I wish I didn't have them" and "I wouldn't do it again". I don't ever for a minute wish I didn't have them. I wouldn't take all the money in the world for them. But they both know I wouldn't do it again. It doesn't mean anything to them other than I'm honest. It's no different than the fact that I was on the pill when I conceived my daughter. Does telling her that, and obviously saying she wasn't planned mean I love her less? Ridiculous.
Both my kids are in their mid thirties. Neither are in jail, on drugs or have ever been in trouble. My daughter followed me into law enforcement, has been since she was 18yo. I am extremely proud of her. She also now is a partner of her own business on the side. My son brought to me a daughter in law that I absolutely adore and two granddaughters that are jewels.
So, no. To say that a sentiment like this make kids turn out badly is a blanket statement that doesn't necessarily apply.
I never ever would say "I wish I hadn't".....But..I wouldn't do it again.
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