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Originally Posted by edwardsmom  Misslissa I completely understand how that could feel and u should be very proud of yourself, for both taking care of ur siblings but also for knowing exactly what you want already!
AlisonJ I have a feeling thats how my life might turn out simply b/c their are sooooo many children in my life I have 2 sisters and three brothers and four have children plus my 2 godchildren and my fiances kids i have kids to last me awhile plus my favorite one which is my furbut Edward.... |
Reading the posts you wrote I feel that you are not mature enough for children. I am 24 too and I understand some of the concerns but if one of your concerns is not being able to "shove them up " when you need a break, that is very childish in my opinion and not someone who is ready to have children. You are right, you have step children but just remember because they aren't "your" children it doesn't make it much different. They will grow up and could end up bad, good or whatever your scared of. The reality is you got with a man who had children so there really isn't a way around it. If you didn't want children you should of got with someone who had the same values. If your fiance is asking to have children you need to sit and talk to him, it is very tough if one wants children and one doesn't. It could make or break your relationship.
As I mentioned I am 24 years old and I've been with my husband since I was 17 he was 19. He had a son from a previous relationship and was only a couple months old when we got together. Me being young and dumb didn't "think" about what I was getting myself into. Now I LOVE my husband and most days I am happy with him
but in reality if I had to go back in time, I don't think I would of wanted to date a guy with a child. But that is a whole other story since my husbands ex is a train wreck. Now at 19 my husband had mentioned children, we weren't ready and weren't careful and right before my 20th birthday I had my daughter. That made me grow up ALOT! I knew I always wanted kids one day though and even if my daughter grows up and doesn't meet my expections that is YOUR CHILD, your baby and I would never ever regret having her. I really don't see how a parent can say that? That may be the type of parent who shouldn't of had kids. I'm still young but I feel I'm pretty mature for my age. I do plan on having at least one more child hopefully in the next year or two. I also have three dogs, a parrot and a snake. I make time for all of them, and we are a big happy family most of the time. If you follow your heart, you can make anything happen. You don't need to be rich, live in a luxury home or know what the future holds for you and your family. You need to have faith that God will never give you more then you can handle. I wake up each morning and I am so happy to see my daughters face and know that I made her and I will shape and mold her the best I can and pray that she will become a protective and reasonable person.
