[nana911]

It's classic abuse talk. It is never the fault of the abuser. It is always the fault of the victim. You made me do it. That is one of the reasons that over time she begins to believe that she really is at fault. A woman that is not strong of mind and is totally dependent of the abuser for finances and/or has kids can fall into it real easy. If she could just get it right and not keep setting him off he wouldn't keep having to 'correct' her. It's all her fault. Usually in between rages those type of guys are absolutely the best partners, ever. Romantically, with the candlelight dinners, flowers, love, praise, etc... they not only know how to abuse, they know how to bind you to them with the good stuff. They are very very good when they are not being very very bad.