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Originally Posted by Mardelin  We can't assume anything, but adding fuel to an already volitale situation, isn't the best thing. We don't know the age of this young lady, we don't know if she's lived there all her life....we don't know the particulars and shouldn't assume. While the home is her mothers and yes, when we live in our parents home there are rules that we must follow. What this young lady is really asking is help in bridging the gap, to help them come to the meeting of the minds. Whatever the situation is in their home, bottom line is the dogs. |
Was't trying to add fuel to anything. and wasn't assuming, just suggesting that there is likely more to the story than we know. And any suggestion that is made, without knowing the entire story, is futile.
If the mother was open to suggestions, from the daughter, the daughter would not be on here asking for help.
I'm am telling her, from a mother's point of view, how the mother might feel regarding the daughter trying to tell her how to handle the dogs.
the issue, as I see it, is not about the dogs, it is about the mother not listening to the daughter.
Cesar Milan would tell her, that if the entire household is not involved, nothing will work.
I can tell you, that I would not take kindly to my daughters telling me how to handle MY dogs, if the daughter was living with me and not paying her way.
Now if the daughter is working and contributing, then they are roommates, and it is her domain also, and she should be allowed to express her opinion. However, if the mother still chooses not to listen, her only other option would be to move.
It does not pay for you and I to argue over the advice being given. You have your opinion, I have mine. We are looking at the issue from different points of view.