I can't offer advice or anything, never been married, but I have a knack for choosing the wrong kind of guys...exactly the kind of guys your husband seems to be. They take advantage of my kindness and understanding and my always optimistic approach to everything. I assume everything can be fixed, and there is always good in every situation. Boy have I been made to look stupid.
In fact, my first bf whom I was with for 2.5 years cheated on me many times, and then let me dump him, then he'd come begging to get me back, and of course we would talk things out. Then 2 weeks after Christmas a couple years back he had the nerve to dump me! He told me that I wasn't good enough for him, and that I would make a horrible wife, basically told me everything that I would worry about being is exactly what I was. 2 weeks later he was shacked up with some other chick and I was alone and sad.
But I've grown since then, 1.5 cheaters later (don't ask about the .5 it gets silly) I've found a great guy, plus a great puppy and a fat cat and I'm happy. I'm much happier living alone with my furries and having a boyfriend that lives elsewhere that I can actually trust to not stab me in the back then I ever was with cheater-boy.
You have to make your decision, I'm not one to ever tell anyone to leave their husband, but you have to ask yourself "does he make me happy" if not, then maybe you should seek counseling with him, or leave the situation behind you.
Sorry, I've sort of rambled on longer than I thought, but I wish you good luck with whatever happens and that whatever you choose is what will make you happy. |