Oh Jen 

  I know what you are going through.  I just lost my dad 2 weeks ago tonight and I couldn't imagine losing one of my boys at the same time.  Your grief is twofold, and it won't matter what anyone says, your heart is broken and the only thing that will start to heal it is time.  I do understand why you did that to your hubby, you thought that he was trying to replace your little girl, which will never happen.  But, I can guarantee that if you open up your heart to another little one the love will just come naturally.  She will never take the place of your little girl but they'll be another one to love.  Shed your tears, I still do, even for my yorkies that I lost years ago (14), my mom, my dad and others, it's just something that makes me feel good.  Give your hubby a big hug and welcome any new addtions to your family with open arms...