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Originally Posted by maryeverett1  Same story different day is right! What is the point of openly being nasty to someone who is in obvious anguish over not only the condition of their dog but how to help their dog? I don't think she was asking to be coddled but you can be decent to a human being that is also suffering. I agree this dog needs to be helped asap and probably needed help before now but I can tell you Accusing to report this lady for animal cruelty is a flipping joke! She came on to find help and like in so many cases and threads "same story different day" here are people yelling at someone who is trying (definitely not done perfect or soon enough but trying nonetheless and in obvious pain over her decisions) and what does she find? People calling her names and threatening to report her! You sure as heck can do it "your way" but how is that working for you since she is leaving and no longer willing to post? How does that help this pup in the long run? There is a way to provide help and honest straight forward blunt "what she needs to hear" advice without abusing the people that are coming to get it. Yes she could have done things sooner and differently maybe but what good does it do this baby to bash her over the head with that now? Comments like this disgust me and are so not helpful that it's not even funny. What about just putting the abuse on hold and focusing on helping this pup get the immediate care she needs? Feel free to abuse me now too because I know the drill and what's coming next...don't bother. I won't be checking back. And yes I did read the entire thread and did notice the few compassionate, helpful, resourceful, caring yet firm responses. All threads like this teach people is not to bring their mistakes or problems to YT because most likely you won't get any help just a barrage of insults.
To the OP...I can't even imagine how rough this is to go through but I know you will do what's best for this baby even if it's devastating for you because any of us who truly love our babies would do what was needed no matter how hard it is for us personally. That's what true love means. I am also sorry you are suffering with colon caner and a job loss. So many things for one person to deal with at once. Praying that you have strength to endure it all and come out stronger! |
I disagree with you. The first two pages of this thread are nothing but 'nice' replies. In this instance, 'nice' wasn't getting through to the OP. Sometimes one has to be more firm, more shocking, or more blunt, something that you would probably label as 'rude', to get through to some owners (nothing against these owners, in truth, most just really don't know) that something needs to be done, action needs to happen, in order to save a life.
I think the problem was too that the OP had been to a vet who was supportive of her attempts to nurse this pup to health. But, I believe the vet is in error and could have made better recommendations. The issue of the pup 'having other problems' the hydrocephalus and the LP, making her a poor candidate for successful surgery, is one thing I question.
Is the hydrocephalus a result of the AAI? Probably. In which case surgery would be the best treatment, relieving the pressure on the brain by way of placing a shunt to get the accumulated fluid off the brain and surgically stablizing the vertebrae. This is the 'fix' for this pup. Why didn't the vet push for this to happen? Client has no money at this time. So, they agree to go home with meds and hope for the best. Vet knows this pup will not survive, or needs to brush up on AAI. Client doesn't fully understand the severity of this condition, or insists on attempting to nurse this pup back to health. Is it fair to the pup to have to suffer through this treatment? No, it is not fair.
So then the OP comes here to YT, for help, support, funds, ideas? And she meets a group of people who know better. People who see dogs suffer on a daily basis. People who work with vets, and know what treatments are available. People from all walks of life, and from all occupations. People who know how to end suffering of the innocent, through whatever means it takes to get there. And what happens? Two pages of nice replies, of being told to seek medical help for this pup, and she decides to wait for two more days, to see if this pup shows any improvement. Sorry, wrong answer. We didn't do our job, we didn't get thought to the OP.
So, with 20 or so people trying to jump through their monitors to try to reach the OP, ladyjane comes along. She's been here all along, and after having made 3-4 valiant attempts to be nice, she steps up to the plate. And she will battle her way through, come high water and all, because she cares about little dogs, especially this one, now. And, no matter how it sounds, she is not here to make friends, she is here to save lives. And when 'nice' don't get it, she will make sure one does 'get it' before they leave.
So, should threads escalate to this point? No, not in a perfect world. And, basically, when people are not receptive immediately to good advice, we have to think maybe we could be doing something more helpful by seeking another thread and just move on. Which sometimes happens. It really depends on each thread, the receptiveness of the person seeking the advice, and the problems presented.
And if you watch and read these threads, you may notice that some responders are good at getting the initial info, then others come on and help with the assesment and medical stuff, and others that do the transportation or other special needs, some come on to support and encourage, and a few kick butt when deemed necessary. All this for what? So that as many little dogs can get what they need to go on and live long and very happy lives.