[maryeverett1]

Originally Posted by Mardelin

I went back and reread the thread last night.

Yes, it didn't get heated and nasty, could things have been projected differently, yes. But, where I saw the whole thing go sour, was at the point when: Advice was offerred, in the welfare of the dogs and the person responded that spaying was an not an option because the person was breeding to supplement an income. And you'll notice, in the first couple of pages of the post, there were several great offers of advice.

Now in regard to this person's physical challenges.....Caring, breeding and raising puppies is a full time job. One has to be on "duty" 24 hours a day. It requires physical strength and stamina to do a good job for the welfare of the dogs. In my opinion that was also a point of contention and added fuel to the fire. Some felt that this person, with whatever their physical challange is, was not in the position of properly caring for these dogs. She'd already been a position where pups had been killed, due to this persons lack of prepardeness and education.

Several have stated that people are hesitant of asking questions, because they fear being jumped, bashed, whatever.....If questions are asked with good intentions for their dogs, one doesn't have to fear that. But, if questions are asked and advice is offered and one is not willing to take it, and will do what they are going to do anyway, why post your question. That is when YTers become passionate, angry and things get out of hand.

There are several other things in the OPers past posts that threw up red flags that revealed that she was not prepared to embark on her breeding program. Go back and read her posts. This person is in need of financial help, but, she is able to buy and accumulate more dogs to breed. Makes one think, but still not our place to judge. What is being judged is living off the backs of her dogs.

If someone doesn't take advice it doesn't give any of us the right to hurl personal attacks! And SHE DID ask the questions in the best interests of her dogs! If someone asks the question they are thinking about their dogs! There is never ever ever EVER a time where it is ever appropriate to be rude, insulting or disrespectful to another person! And it certainly doesn't make a person (like the OP of that thread) want to take any advice when they are being attacked and picked apart for things. There is always a way to say that very same info in a kind, respectful, informative and non judgemental way. The advice in that thread was not wrong but the way it was given was completely out of line and therefore those dogs who could have been helped now probably won't because the OP probably only saw attacks instead of helpful advice given with compassion and in a respectful manner. The elevator needs to go to the top floor on how to communicate effectively with one another and there are a handful of people who just don't get it. Very sad.