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maryeverett1 · 03-28-2010, 08:15 AM

I was talking about Lee B in my above comments and thanking her for her post! Still trying to figure out all the ways this site works! I also just wanted to say that I do not think it is necessary to go all around the site and "get to know how the rude people post and their personalities!" Rude is rude and I will never accept that as the "norm" anywhere! I also have no intention of getting advice from or getting to know anyone who treats a human bad but a furry friend good. The humans are the ones in charge of this precious breed so somewhere in here the connection needs to be made that people skills are absolutely necessary and essential to imparting knowledge! Like Lee B said...no one will stick around long enough to learn if they are abused in the process! I am not trying to change anyone's opinion because everyone certainly has the right to theirs! But we can have opinions without doing it in an obnoxious, abusive, mean, confrontational way! Just want people to think before they write! The other day I was not asking for clarification on my dogs or breeder, I was not asking for anyone's help, or advice! I had just come on to say hi and introduce myself and my dogs. I did not realize it at the time but a couple of the words I used were "red flags and buzz words" according to a senior member I spoke to via phone last night at great length! Had someone explained that to me instead of just bashing me, my dogs and my breeder and done it in a non attacking non confrontational manner things might have been very different! But because I didn't agree with their opinion of me and my breeder (which I still don't and was baseless and without merit in my opinion) egos were seriously ruffled! I liken it to President Obama getting all hot and bothered and rolling around in the mud in anger and making a fool of himself because some city council member of a small town in anywhere USA doesn't agree with him, his standards, new legislation etc. How stupid would he look??? He is the president!!! He knows the rules, he knows the country...it wouldn't matter what that little city council member said somewhere! He might give his opinion kindly and with class and move on! So if you are a senior member, a long time breeder and you know everything there is to know about yorkies why would you bash someone over the head because they don't agree with you or they see things differently or God forbid have a real question that sounds stupid to you?? Just be helpful and if they don't agree with you go on about your life and Yorkie causes! The only instance where I could see where it could be okay to get that angry, irate and confrontational would be if someone is on here for devious purposes, hurting the breed or puppies or trying to sell dogs in a manner that is wrong! The situation the other day was not what that was!!! I had an opinion about my breeder and my dogs that these people did not like, they couldn't convince me otherwise and they went bananas on me for it! CAN YOU SAY BIG EGO??? Just like you are entitled to your opinion I am entitled to mine. Its a 2 way street! I was also told last night that I need to earn the respect of senior members? Where does it say that in the rules of this site because I certainly have not read that! Earning respect is a 2 way street! I always treat others with respect but that does not mean I will respect your opinion until you show that you care about mine (not agree with it but respect my right to have one) and are able to tolerate it being different from yours and still treat me with civility! There needs to be respect for one another on this site regardless and the only qualifications for that should be if the people involved love their dogs, love yorkies as a breed and want to become better owners/breeders/yorkie people! and that is the bottom line...period. Thank you to everyone who has been supportive of this thread and willing to personally not put up with this any longer. We cannot change anyone but ourselves but if we make the commitment that we personally will not behave that way or tolerate others that do change WILL come!!!

03-28-2010, 08:15 AM	#47
maryeverett1 BANNED! Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Virginia Beach, VA Posts: 795	I was talking about Lee B in my above comments and thanking her for her post! Still trying to figure out all the ways this site works! I also just wanted to say that I do not think it is necessary to go all around the site and "get to know how the rude people post and their personalities!" Rude is rude and I will never accept that as the "norm" anywhere! I also have no intention of getting advice from or getting to know anyone who treats a human bad but a furry friend good. The humans are the ones in charge of this precious breed so somewhere in here the connection needs to be made that people skills are absolutely necessary and essential to imparting knowledge! Like Lee B said...no one will stick around long enough to learn if they are abused in the process! I am not trying to change anyone's opinion because everyone certainly has the right to theirs! But we can have opinions without doing it in an obnoxious, abusive, mean, confrontational way! Just want people to think before they write! The other day I was not asking for clarification on my dogs or breeder, I was not asking for anyone's help, or advice! I had just come on to say hi and introduce myself and my dogs. I did not realize it at the time but a couple of the words I used were "red flags and buzz words" according to a senior member I spoke to via phone last night at great length! Had someone explained that to me instead of just bashing me, my dogs and my breeder and done it in a non attacking non confrontational manner things might have been very different! But because I didn't agree with their opinion of me and my breeder (which I still don't and was baseless and without merit in my opinion) egos were seriously ruffled! I liken it to President Obama getting all hot and bothered and rolling around in the mud in anger and making a fool of himself because some city council member of a small town in anywhere USA doesn't agree with him, his standards, new legislation etc. How stupid would he look??? He is the president!!! He knows the rules, he knows the country...it wouldn't matter what that little city council member said somewhere! He might give his opinion kindly and with class and move on! So if you are a senior member, a long time breeder and you know everything there is to know about yorkies why would you bash someone over the head because they don't agree with you or they see things differently or God forbid have a real question that sounds stupid to you?? Just be helpful and if they don't agree with you go on about your life and Yorkie causes! The only instance where I could see where it could be okay to get that angry, irate and confrontational would be if someone is on here for devious purposes, hurting the breed or puppies or trying to sell dogs in a manner that is wrong! The situation the other day was not what that was!!! I had an opinion about my breeder and my dogs that these people did not like, they couldn't convince me otherwise and they went bananas on me for it! CAN YOU SAY BIG EGO??? Just like you are entitled to your opinion I am entitled to mine. Its a 2 way street! I was also told last night that I need to earn the respect of senior members? Where does it say that in the rules of this site because I certainly have not read that! Earning respect is a 2 way street! I always treat others with respect but that does not mean I will respect your opinion until you show that you care about mine (not agree with it but respect my right to have one) and are able to tolerate it being different from yours and still treat me with civility! There needs to be respect for one another on this site regardless and the only qualifications for that should be if the people involved love their dogs, love yorkies as a breed and want to become better owners/breeders/yorkie people! and that is the bottom line...period. Thank you to everyone who has been supportive of this thread and willing to personally not put up with this any longer. We cannot change anyone but ourselves but if we make the commitment that we personally will not behave that way or tolerate others that do change WILL come!!!