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Originally Posted by Lee B  Sometimes I cringe when I see "newbies" post. You come here happy, proud and wanting to share your joy, only to have folks tear you apart for one thing or another.
The problem, as I see it, is simply that people forget that at one point in their lives they, too, were "uneducated" about all the myriad things affecting our small charges. You fall in love with the breed, want to share your joy ... and then the learning curve begins. In an ideal world, everyone would learn all they could first, THEN acquire a pup. But that's not the reality ...
Some of the people here need to remember how it was when THEY were new, before they started to absorb the knowledge that can be found here. It would also help to put yourself in the poster's shoes before answering ...
If new people are attacked upon joining and stating something perceived "ignorant" as opposed to "uneducated", the poster won't stick around long enough to GET the education. Sometimes it requires taking a deep breath, then carefully choosing words.
The object of this board - and any other animal related board - should be education, with camaraderie and sharing experiences coming in a close second. Education cannot be bludgeoned into the "pupil"; to do so is to alienate, which results in closed minds, rebellion ... and loss of the student. How much will be learned THEN?
We - ALL of us! - love the little furbutts we share our lives with. What we need to try to remember is that everyone has a starting point in learning about our charges - including the person who is posting an "answer". Please remember that not everyone has your experience ... but they're here to learn, so be kind - or you'll run them off.
One other thing: not all the members here live in the U.S., so take into consideration that things are different where they live and make adjustments in your answers (and opinions) accordingly.
Just my opinion ... |
I second this entire post! This says pretty much what I think. I agree that you were treated harshly and since I haven't been on the board very long I don't know if that is common here or not but I would say it probably is. I use to belong to a chihuahua board and the same actions take place there. I think opinions are great and I should be able to speak my opinion but there is a point where it becomes attack or elitism and that's sometimes a point people don't realize they have reached.
I like this board so far and have been considering becoming a donating member but I keep holding off because I don't want to give money if I am not going to be welcomed.
What I have found so far is that when I make a post whether it is just showing off Bella or asking for information. I get a bout 2 responses (usually from someone equally new or someone that feels sorry for me because I haven't gotten any response) That is disheartening, since I want lots of ideas and answers or I wouldn't have asked.
At any rate, Welcome Mary and glad you stayed!