[BellaBlue82]

Originally Posted by jeanm1963

I would NEVER smack my kid across the room , and I hope when YOU have children you wont either, however, that said, raising children is NOT easy, and being a single parent is not easy either.. I only hope your expectations of being a parent and getting the respect your suggesting here happens. I was strick with my daughters, however they were mouthy , fresh, broke curfew, talked back, etc... they were feeling thier boundries... they were being typical teenages, I didnt run a bootcamp.. I never said it was OKAY but I didnt smack them across the room either ( that would be considered a serious case of child abuse)... I know you are only 27 but what is allowed now a days and what was allowed even 27 years ago is quite different. Not only has the family dynamics changed but the world in general has changed.

Like I posted earlier, I was never actually smacked across the room. I used that as a figure of speech, simply to mean that my parents meant business with me, and I would never disrespect them by back talking or being sarcastic, because I would be disciplined accordingly. I was NEVER hit in the face, but I did get spanked on the butt when I was young (under 10 years). When I got older, they would just take my phone away, or not let me go out with my friends for a few weeks, but I would be disciplined in some way. I am a mother of three beautiful children, ages seven, four, and thriteen months. Obviously they are not mouthy teens yet, but they push their boundaries as well, mouthing off here and there, and they are dealt with accordingly. I have no problem giving them a few swats on the behind, or putting them in the corner for a time out (not the baby of course). I really don't think it's neccesary to judge those that choose to spank their kids, and call them child abusers. I love my children more than anything on this earth and have NEVER abused them in any way. They are great kids who will grow up to love and respect their parents, and I thank my parents for raising me the way that they did, so that I can pass that knowledge along to my precious babies, and they will do the same for their kids. The only difference in the time is that now parents think that kids should be allowed to do whatever they want, and there is no discipline anymore. Why do you think that teen pregnancy, drug abuse, and STDs are running wild, way worse than they were 27 years ago? Just my opinions... but anyway to the OP, I hope everything is going well with you and your children and that you were able to sit and talk with them about how you were feeling.