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Originally Posted by chloeandj  Last year i was having a hard time with my youngest son and I read several positive discipline books. One of the best things i ever learned was to tell my kids or show them how they were making me feel. "When you say that, or when you do this it makes me feel ---." Instead of sending him to his room for a time out or yelling at him. i can't tell you how aware this made my son, and he has so much empathy now and it made him realize i was a person with feelings just like him. When he does act out now, it only lasts a few second before he apologizes before i say anything. And even if i didn't get it right away, he only needed to calm down to realize how badly he was acting. He has become very self aware. It's ok for your kids to know your human.
The other thing i learned was to walk away. I don't argue with my kids or listen to their whining. When my kids are talking to me in a way i don't like, I walk away like i would do any person that was disrespectful. it's amazing how quickly the whining goes away when they know i won't be there to listen. I've even locked myself in my room to calm myself down so i don't yell at them. LOL I guess what i'm trying to say is i treat my kids how i expect them to treat me, i never yell or hit. And over time, he really changed! I hope this has helped a bit! I definately recommend a positive discipline approach, it has worked worlds of good in my household! |
Great advice, you are teaching him how to behave around other people as well, not just those who have authority over him. He is learning how his behavior affects others. You are also setting a great example for him on how to discipline his own children, and interact with other people.