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Originally Posted by pepe mint  I know there are a few of us here planning weddings and I personally keep coming across situations where I don't know what the appropriate way to handle things would be. So I thought I would come to a place with thousands of women and a few brutally honest men and ask for some opinions. Others can feel free to ask questions here too 
my first question is this...should the bride or groom be allowed to say someone can't be invited even if the other person wants to invite them? In my case, I am dealing with one of his friends that is a woman who has caused a lot of grief and heartache for us. She has disrespected our family and I simply do not like her at all. I don't trust her. I do not want her there. He is more forgiving than I am...he has been able to forgive her for the stupid crap she pulls... and because they have been friends for 14 years, on some level, he doesn't see why she shouldn't be allowed there. Well, I know she will ruin the day. That's just how she is. I've expressed my feelings many tines and he has somewhat agreed not to invite her because he does agree that it could turn out disasterous...but he also makes the comment that if he decided he DID want to invite her, I shouldn't be able to tell him he can't. Tricky situation but I just really believe she would screw our whole day up. She has ruined our vacations, anniversaries, birthdays and our every day life. Why would our wedding day be any different???
What do u think??? Am I being selfish or controlling??? |
I think he needs to respect the difficulties this woman has caused in your life. YOU are the #1 woman now and no other woman in his life should really be worth a fight about. If the tables were turned and it was a guy in your life (although in MY opinion, no woman or man should cause these issues in a marriage- if they do- they are out or this is a big dealbreaker) he would hope that you would respect him enough to not invite this guy.