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Originally Posted by DaisyMom  I suppose my question would be....why does he still maintain a friendship with this person if she has caused so many problems for the two of you? You should be his first priority; even if he chooses to keep her as a friend, there should be some new boundaries based on bad behavior. Maybe she needs to become a more peripheral friend.....or even a Christmas card friend?
Because this is causing you so much stress, I do think you have the right to not invite her to your wedding. This is a big day for you both, the day of a lifetime, and you should be blissfully happy with NO worries at all. Things are going to come up, so why add something you know will be a problem to the mix?
This is a really good taste of what it is like to be married; sometimes you just can't agree, but a decision has to be made. In my case, we respected each other enough to allow the person who felt the most strongly to prevail. Yes, in theory, your fiance should be allowed to invite who he wants to the wedding. But there are other factors at play here, ones that he agrees with, that should be considered. It just isn't a perfect world!
Best wishes.......... |
I too want to know why he would be friends with her and keep forgiving her
I agree with the phrase "Pick Your Battles" but, if this person could actually ruin your wedding NO she wouldn't be coming. Another thing my husband would not be friends with such a person, period.
Your wedding is a special day and memories last forever, do you want a memory of this looney bird
doing something off the wall?
I would just stick to my guns and not invite her ..JMO
By the way Congrats !
