Well Sophia lets us sleep in "her" bed
and I'm 100% with you on no pee pads on the bed. Pee pads go in two or three places in the house and until your baby is trained to them and knows where they are and that is where she's supposed to do her business then I would crate her. We actually used a baby's play pen for Soph and it didn't take her very long at all to learn to use the pads so she could graduate to the bed with us. Have fun with your new baby!