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Originally Posted by HendrixandLucy  Here is the bottom line: When you are married (or in a commited relationship where you finacially depend on eachother) I don't care who has the money or where the money is coming from accident or not, every decission should be made together. And this of all decissions involves a lot of money and a it is a big huge commitment.
I am all about saying "oh just buy the puppy blah blah blah" but truthfully, when it comes down to it--- this is a huge and expensive decission that needs to be thought through and talked about and decided upon TOGETHER.
Somebody posted earlier that one of the most important things in a marriage is mutaul respect for one another. That means you need to respect him enough to talk this out and not go behind his back AND if he truly truly does not want the puppy than I really think that at this time you do need to respect that.
But from the other side- he also needs to respect your wishes and listen to you and hear you out.
Sounds to me like you two need to sit down and have a serious talk-- all jokes and puppy dog eyes put aside  |
I was posting non stop about marriage being mutual respect, and major decisions should be made together etc. I agree with you, and I still stand by what I said HOWEVER...
Hearing more of this story, I think, like another post said, that they have far bigger issues in their marriage then getting a dog or not getting a dog.
I think they need to come together and work something out about the major thing in their marriage: FINANCES because it sounds to me like things aren't exactly equal here, and before they make another FINANCIAL decision things need to be laid out on the table.
Getting a dog isn't going fix s**t.