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Originally Posted by RachelandSadie  i honestly did not know anything about declawing. i didn't know it hurt them that much or i wouldn't have said anything about SIL doing that. i'll tell her that's not a good idea and to try the squirt bottle to teach him not to scratch the furniture. but i'm sure she won't have the time or energy to do it or listen to me, she's got 4 kids to take care of, a husband that works at the city mission and is never home, he cares more about the homeless (which is a great thing) than his family (which is the bad part) he doesn't discipline his two children to the point the oldest girl in now in teen challenge and my SIL can't raise his out of control younger daughter because of the physical and verbal abuse this child gives to her.
anyways they are a mess and have adopted two pets with all this chaos and to me it's just selfish of them to think that because their kids should have pets that they should just go out and adopt whatever they want without thinking of training them, taking care of them, or the costs and issues that might come up with them.
still burns my hind end~! |
You know I wasn't trying to be a jerk, or have it come off in a bad way, I just have seen people come in and say that want to declaw their cat and have the vet just say ok..and not try to tell them all the other options that there are..I just try to let people know what the vet doesn't always say. I know a lot of hospital's wont do that anymore..from what I have read so who knows. to each his own and if they want to do that then thats on them, me personaly would never do it. My Mom thought about doing it to her 2 cats and I talked her out of it..so now I get to go cut the cat's nails every week
but its ok I love those cats and I would rather take time out to trim the nails them have them be declawed!
That sucks about you SIL...Me the person I am would break her off , tell her to get her sh!t together and tell the hubby to play the Father/husband roll as well!! Many many people have job where they are 100% commited to it, and they are also 100% commited to their family, it's just something that you have to do, you have to learn how to control both, and him being the father/husband figure he should step up and be like " look this is how it is and this is how its going to be" It is not fair that he gives more to his job than his family...But what can you do..thats hard bc you are the SIL..are you close with her?