Originally Posted by Nancy1999  Hi, wow this is so much for you to take on your shoulders. First of all you seem to want to know if this is the truth, it very well could be, she sounds like she's really lost, and there are people that will take advantage of you when you are vulnerable. There's probably not much you can actually do. Just listening to her probably helps a lot, and so many people will judge her, and if you can do that it would help a lot. She should probably find out if she is pregnant, and since the protection didn't work, she also could have a sexually transmitted disease. First thing she should do, is tell an adult, she needs to go see a doctor. Many towns have planned parent associations that can offer advice and counseling if there are no adequate adults in her life. Have you told you mom about the situation? Perhaps you can talk to her about your friend. This is too much for you to handle alone. One thing that is helpful to learn is that you will meet lots of people over the years, and they might go through some horrible things, it's always good if they can talk to someone about it, but you can't let it hurt you. Some women are what they call "drama queens" and get themselves in horrible predicaments, just so that they can get sympathy from others, I'm not saying your friend is like this, but while you can be empathetic and try to understand what's she's going through, you can not let yourself get so emotionally worked up by it that you panic. Remember that everything is the same in your life, as it was before she gave you this news, so you don't have to be scared, and thank your lucky stars for having parents that have given you some guidance. You can sometimes learn as much in life from those who set a bad example, as well as those who set a good example. I'm sorry your friend is going through this, but please don't let it get YOU down. I'm sending prayers your way. You sound like a great friend! |