Regarding the "ruining the breed" comment, and I guess most of the OP, I agree with previous posters in that this came across to me as an emotional vent. From her following posts, it did sound like she genuinely wanted help, not lashes. I know I felt overwhelmed when I had some trouble with Molly.
I took a break from this board a while back when I felt the same way. There were some posts/replies that definitely came across as condescending and just mean when I asked for advice. I don't think most people would post out here for help and not consider the advice given. And no, advice doesn't have to be sugar-coated, but caring and genuine, both for the poster and the dog. Ask questions to get a better feel of the problem. Take a few minutes when responding to put yourself in the other person's shoes.
Yorkie118, please overlook the negative responses. They may have been having a bad day as well. I believe that there are more compassionate owners out here than negative. You might find someone you think communicated help well and send them a message instead of posting. Good luck with your Yorkie. I found that a schedule was an immense help for me and Molly in the early days, and that advice came from someone out here who took the time to help.
I hope that with patience and understanding we all become the owners our babies deserve. |