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Originally Posted by mnewco

I think you are taking her post wrong. She was in tears because she felt bad for using the term. She was not in tears because she thought the PMs were bad. She can correct me if I am wrong in interpreting her post.

Please don't be hard on her. In a few weeks you won't even be bothered by this thread.

As I have said, there is nothing wrong with wording your dog as a teacup. It is a word that also means very small in he dog world. An owner, I feel has the right to be able to use that word.

The OP now knows how you feel. Please don't drive her away.

In a few weeks I won't be bothered by this thread? I think you are wrong. Tell me if you had tried to make sure you wrote a post that was nice in every way and a little heads up for someone who says they are a breeder and want to sell Yorkies, and then you read these excerpts SUPPOSEDLY about something that you had written (knowing full well you had done nothing of the kind!), how would YOU FEEL?

"I think it's awful that you had to receive e-mails from people who obviously get a thrill out of making others feel bad. I guess if they talk down to people and treat them as if they are stupid it makes them feel smarter. In all reality it just makes them look all that much more stupid.
I'm glad your staying and you will find that the helpful nice people far outweigh the bad." --I do NOT get a thrill out of making others feel bad, did not talk down to anyone, and am not stupid!

"However, I cannot understand why words such as teacup incites such a fervor that it embarrasses or humiliates the speaker/writer especially when they are newcomers or guests." -- I did not embarrass or humiliate anyone!

"In my opinion the rudeness of such is much more damaging than someone using the wrong terminology to describe a Yorkie. There is a better way to gently correct someone and lead them to the "jargon" that graces this breed than to embarrass or ridicule." -- I was NOT rude to anyone and did not embarrass or ridicule.

"You did nothing wrong. If anyone of those emails showed any kind of meaness then they need to sit in a corner and think about what they said." I showed no meanness and do not need to sit in a corner!

"The people that got upset with you..............too sensitive!!!!" -- I was not too sensitive and was NOT upset before you all started with the written bashing.

In summary: I was not rude, I was not upset, I was not demeaning. I did not humiliate, embarrass or ridicule the OP. What better way to 'GENTLY CORRECT" someone than to send a very nicely worded PM privately to let them know how some may feel about the term when it is used by breeders?

BTW she says in one post that she deleted the pms without reading them, doesn't even know what they said, but somehow makes a whole thread about what she feels about the unread posts? Then she writes later in the thread, after everyone has already gotten up in arms: "no one ment any harm when they wrote i know that i upset them and they just let me know... no bad remarks were made.... just letting me know." So, she must have read them? I certainly was not upset and nothing in my PM suggested that I was upset. In fact I wrote specifically, "Some really get upset over the Tea cup titles because some disreputable breeders have used the term to sell undersized puppies in the past. I don't get uptight over the term if it is just being used as you did to say the pup is smaller than average. But, it is a good idea to steer clear of the term, if you can." So, I think I made it quite clear that I was not upset, not ridiculing her or anything negative. It was supposed to be taken as friendly info.

I'll save PMs for people I know from now on so they will not be misrepresented.