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Originally Posted by FlDebra

As long as you don't owe them any money, I don't see why they should worry about how you spend your money, especially since you are married and have your own home. Maybe it will be a good opportunity to let them know nicely but firmly that you are now an adult and you and your husband will make your own decisions about where your money is spent.

I would approach it as a non-problem. Don't be afraid of telling them. If they do react negatively, then let them know you need to talk. Put this and any other time they have tried to interfere in how you and your husband spend your money on the table and explain in no uncertain terms that you appreciate their concern, but this has to stop. They need to trust that you two can make your own decisions. Let them know they have done a great job parenting and now you are ready to be independent.

I guess I really don't understand trying to control a married offspring's spending. I would have a problem interfering even if I thought they were creating a debt. I had early financial discussions with my grown children, but it was more in the way of general advice about not getting in to debt, keeping credit cards to a minimum and not letting interest eat you alive. I would never dream of telling them not to buy something they wanted. My parents never did with me either.

You made some great points, but I think that parents have a hard time letting go and knowing boundaries after we are off and starting our own lives, and to stop parenting but just give us advice- my parents still act like I am living at home- and we dont even live that close. LOL Good post though!