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Originally Posted by FlDebra  I do not understand all the hostility you are sending out at all! I did not see anyone jump on you in the least. In fact, I saw where they commended you for looking in to training your bullie and approaching this to ensure safety for your dogs and your child. Just because someone mentions a concern does NOT mean they are telling you what to do or not to do. No one said they blamed your bullie either. I don't think many here blame another dog when they accidently hurt a smaller one during unsupervised play. You are making accusations that just never happened here!
I think EVERYONE who read of all of Stormy's medical history would have some concern! You make it our business when you post on this forum. No one was uncivil at all to you -- in fact it was just the opposite. I think a great deal of care was taken with wording to try to ensure you were not offended or saddened any more than you already are. No one said you were a bad owner! You did make a thread about how long to wait after losing a dog to get another. That does give some indication that you are thinking about getting another even though you say you are not. So, when people mention that maybe a larger dog would work better with this enthusiastic breed you now have, that is not a slam on you! You yourself, said you think you should get a larger dog as a 5 pounder is too small to be with the bullie. So, why are you now throwing a fit when someone else agrees with you?
Your own history is that you had a small dog that you chose to rehome before it was a year old because of housetraining issues. Then you had a small dog that got into Nair and drastically injured her nose, requiring surgery to rebuild it. You told us all how you could not afford the surgery and the vet decided to do the surgery for you anyway. There was a point I thought the dog was being PTS but it turned out that did not happen. Then the vet was going to keep Stormy, I thought. But evidently he decided to give her back to you after the surgery. I may have missed some steps in there and feel free to correct if I got a detail off a bit. Then you tell us that the bullie accidently killed your poor Stormy. Now you say Stormy had a history of seizures and this may have been a seizure. So, if some suggest a larger dog might do better for you and your family (including this bullie) it is with sincere concern and not any slam or insult. I would never tell you one way or another to get a dog or not get a dog. But, when you post about the possibility of getting one -- or in this case, the timing for getting one, then you should expect some input! It might not all be exactly what you want, but rest assured, people are going to comment on what they feel is important for you to consider. Just as you feel you love your dogs, others love and care about the welfare of all dogs too.
I think you may have soem underlying feelings coming from somewhere besides these posts. I reread through and just do not see that anyone was slamming you, insulting you, or telling you what you could or could not have. There was genuine compassion, sincere caring, and concern for all -- you, your family, the bullie, Stormy, and any future dogs you decide to have or not.Try to keep an open mind. Look at the posts in a positive way. For someone to take the time to write to you, shows that they do care. We may not all post exactly what you want us to but I think it should be evident that we care. Good luck in whatever decsion you decide to make, a small or large dog, soon or after a longer period of waiting, to breed the bullie or not, to combine breeding a bullie with another dog, yorkie or otherwise. Lots of alternatives that have been brought up one way or another. So, your thread is NOT a simple one to answer! |
This thread is about how long did OTHERS wait to get a dog, I said that people have asked me if I was looking to get another dog, I didn't have an answer I thought I'd come here and see what people did in my situation. I think you haven't read all the reads, I WAS slammed in another thread by a few individuals I am not making it up, before I even replied to the threads of the people jumping on me I had SEVERAL PM's from other members that where SHOCKED by the response I have gotten! Please don't comment on particular issues if you don't know, if you go through ALL of my threads you will read my frantic thread about my fiancee rushing Stormy to the vet because she had what we believed was a seizure! This isn't new facts, it's old. So what if I rehomed a dog because she wasn't training. The dog didn't work out for our family but she sure caught on to training as soon as she was in a home with no children and another dog to play with, she had lots of attention from the lady who was home all day and had no kids only dogs to spoil, this dog seemed to be VERY needy! I didn't just throw her out, I was actually searching for a home for almost two months for her and I made sure she went to a great home.
As for the surgery yes I said I didn't have the money for surgery, the surgery wasn't mentioned til later on after the nair incident. She was having issues coming up and we were going to the vet, it was a ear infection we thought at first, then it was her eyes, then again her eyes, finally after that she was acting "strange" that is when we went to the vet AGAIN and they said we should PTS so that was the decision made. I thought she was PTS and hours later I got the call she was alive and the new vet thought he could help her. He told me it was going to be very expensive and she would have to stay at the vets, my vet charges 250 per day and he wanted her to stay for several weeks. I am sure lots of people on here couldn't afford that, I did what I thought was the best for my dog and said I would "give" her to him. He didn't just "give" her back to me either, I did pay a few hundred dollars for his services but at a discounted price. I don't think that has anything to do with it. I have spent hundreds of dollars that I didn't have just laying around! If she had a problem I brought her in and did whatever I could to make sure she got the medicine she needed. If I had to borrow money I did that, if I couldn't do something for MYSELF I wouldn't I'd take the extra cash I had and spend it on her.
I have had lots of great supportive feedback yes, and there has been some that hasn't been so nice, you may of just not read it but there has been because I have got very heart felt PM's with people who were stunned at the remarks I have received so if I am not the only one who has notice there obviously was things said to me that other people have also not agreed with. Yes I have put my business on here and made it public, but just because I ask HOW long OTHERS waited doesn't mean I am saying HOW LONG SHOULD I WAIT. Please don't twist my words, I don't want to sound harsh and there isn't any underlying reasons for me sounding rude or whatever you may take it as. I am just upset that people would talk to me the way they have when the people who know me best know I did what I could for my dog and that I cared for her very deeply.
Yes like I said once already I came home and THOUGHT that my bully may of bit her in the neck or something and killed her, but there was no marks so I was not 100% bought on it. I didn't speak about the incident until a couple days later with my fiancee it was very tragic and I didn't want to ask because I was still in shock. After asking him and him explaining to me how it played out I realized that maybe we had misjudged the situation, am I not allowed to say I think something else may of happen?
I don't have a dangerous dog and she is not a threat to my child, theres people out there with more vicious dogs and have kids. I understand very well what people say, and I said I appreciate it, I take all feedback in and some of it just rubs me the wrong way, I can sometimes read between the lines.