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Originally Posted by BamaFan121s  Your same concern has been voice time and time again. If I get the jist of this and similar concerns, it's not what is said, it's how it is said. Kind of sad that people making serious decisions regarding the lives of their dogs can't look past the "tone" (or just ignore it) and focus on the value of the information being shared instead of trying to over analyze things and concern themselves too much on whether someone was "nice enough" with their answer. You are right...you can't always determine the intent behind someone's words--but that rule goes both ways. If people should be more considerate of how they post, then equally those reading it should be more considerate of how they interpret it. To me, many times the "you were rude with your answer" line is nothing more than a tactic implemented to distract attention from one siutation to another, or "throw the heat off", so to speak.
Unfortunately, it's the "it's not what you said it's how you said it" mentality that has been and continues to be a huge contributing factor as to why many of the well seasoned, respected breeders refuse to post here at all anymore. (Which is a point that has also been brought up on more than one occasion.) |
I understand exactly what you are saying.
Personally, when I read something that has been posted and it strikes a negative cord within me. I step back and ask myself why? More often than not it's because it is indirectly directed towards me and I need to reaccess what I'm doing. If it doesn't strike a cord then I go on.