[tammys]

Oh my gosh, this is so long - sorry about that. It will seem longer than normal, b/c I put lots of spacing b/w paragraphs for easier reading.

That is sad that it has been voiced again and again. I imagine that there will not be a situation where everyone will be happy, so this is probably a mute point.

I absolutely agree: questions can be very confusing, frustrating the person answering it.

I think the interpretation confusion comes from not being able to hear the tone of the person. The OP may be scared or worried (depending on their situation), and their nerves are often raw after dealing with days of guilt, analyzing, etc.

And, you are right, we need to careful in how we interperet the tone - it's just hard to do sometimes. I have read something, and thought it was rude; only to re-read it and realize it wasn't so bad. I will admit to being very sensitive and getting my feelings hurt easily - not a good thing on such impersonal boards!

I also agree that it would be sad for someone to disregard valuable information b/c they got their feelings hurt. Maybe it's not totally disregarded (it would depend on the person/situation), but my point is that if someone is upset about their situation, they should't be made to feel bad; they came here for help, not to be judged and knocked down. They should know the facts and possibly disastrous outcomes, but those things should be delivered with kindness and support, not judgement.

But, I don't understand why experienced breeders wouldn't post on here. If they are helpful and polite, what would the problem be? I guess maybe they thought they weren't being rude, but were blasted by people who thought they were?

I think it comes down to two different sides:


Breeders and experienced dog owners who are frustrated with ignorance, and possibly terrible outcomes.

Newbies inexperienced with breeding asking those questions and posting about these terrible outcomes - causing the frustration in the breeders.


But I do believe that rude is rude. There is always a nicer way to say things, and it might take more time, but it's so much more pleasant for everyone. It's all in the delivery.


Again, sorry for the novel!