[QUOTE=BamaFan121s;2696300]Your same concern has been voice time and time again. If I get the jist of this and similar concerns, it's not what is said, it's how it is said. Kind of sad that people making serious decisions regarding the lives of their dogs can't look past the "tone" (or just ignore it) and focus on the value of the information being shared instead of trying to over analyze things and concern themselves too much on whether someone was "nice enough" with their answer. You are right...you can't always determine the intent behind someone's words--but that rule goes both ways. If people should be more considerate of how they post, then equally those reading it should be more considerate of how they interpret it. To me, many times the "you were rude with your answer" line is nothing more than a tactic implemented to distract attention from one siutation to another, or "throw the heat off", so to speak.
Unfortunately, it's the "it's not what you said it's how you said it" mentality that has been and continues to be a huge contributing factor as to why many of the well seasoned, respected breeders refuse to post here at all anymore. (Which is a point that has also been brought up on more than one occasion.)[/QUOTE]
you are right and right now, I really am not in a mood to worry about how anyone reads what i wrote on the other thread. Some people just need to go to walmart and get a stuffed animal. I am so tired of threads like the two or three I have read today. There is just no excuse. i know the old arguement of everyone has to start somewhere keeps coming up and yes that is right but there are those people that have researched for years before letting two unaltered pets together and even if it was an oops, they should have known better. I know I am in a bad mood today and am not going to post anymore on any of these threads but know this, I am one of the very few experienced breeders left on this board and I spend countless hours on the phone trying to help sincere people. So understand that I am not just trying to be rude or unfeeling. it gets very old at a certain point. |