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tammys · 07-02-2009, 06:55 AM

Disclaimer: I am NOT trying to start trouble, but this has been weighing on me.

I understand how experienced breeders can get upset about situations that they know can end in disaster. My issue is how things are worded very often.

We cannot hear the tone of your voice. It could be empathetic or it could be chastising. And when someone feels backed up against a wall, he/she will not hear what you're saying, however helpful it might be. They will just get defensive, and all the knowledge you have to share won't be heard.

Yes, things need to be said, but I wish people would think about how it might sound to someone, especially someone who is scared and worried about a breeding situation. That person needs the facts (good and bad, worded with respect), support, and to be able to feel that she/he can post on here without feeling attacked.

Just my .02, for what it's worth.

07-02-2009, 06:55 AM	#1
tammys YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 268	Wording... Disclaimer: I am NOT trying to start trouble, but this has been weighing on me. I understand how experienced breeders can get upset about situations that they know can end in disaster. My issue is how things are worded very often. We cannot hear the tone of your voice. It could be empathetic or it could be chastising. And when someone feels backed up against a wall, he/she will not hear what you're saying, however helpful it might be. They will just get defensive, and all the knowledge you have to share won't be heard. Yes, things need to be said, but I wish people would think about how it might sound to someone, especially someone who is scared and worried about a breeding situation. That person needs the facts (good and bad, worded with respect), support, and to be able to feel that she/he can post on here without feeling attacked. Just my .02, for what it's worth.