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Originally Posted by QuickSilver  It sounds like a little bit of a turf war. Did you two have issues over your husband's attention before your daughter came along?
To be honest, I think I can understand how she acted about the corvette. Not that you should let your daughter in it if it isn't safe! I wonder if she was just really excited about the gift and felt that she was getting rejected along with the gift. She probably doesn't want to admit to herself that she gave her granddaughter something that harmful, esp. if your granddaughter is uncomfortable around her. She went to a lot of trouble to win her affection, and it turned out to be a completely inappropirate gesture, which probably made her feel more foolish and unwelcome.
I'm just guessing, and I'm not really sure how to solve the problem. Is your MIL lonely?
I always believe in positive reinforcement. Reward the positive behavior, extinguish the bad behavior, generally by not responding to it. Catch the animal doing something right.  |
I think she may feel this way, she was excited about the gift just like we were! I think she may not want to admit that it was a "bad" car, I think she may think we may of over exaggerated the recall, but its all on the internet and the company told us " don't put your child in it ".
I believe she is lonely as well. She knows she is welcome here ANY time, we have even told her she could move here we will get a bigger place and take care of her. She lives with this old man and she has to take care of him. She lives in this city by herself and all her family is here.
We don't go and visit that much because hubby can't stand her bf. Her bf is pretty bossy towards MIL and my hubby is the kind of guy who will not just sit and listen, he would want to punch the guy out. Last year we went and visited alot, we even went at least once or twice every two months, and on holidays. When we go, we go for at least three days. But we can't stay any longer as tension starts to build.
We went on vacation with them in April for a week and we kept asking MIL to come hang out with us while her bf was sleeping or sunbathing and she wouldn't do anything with us, once she went for a walk. She knows hubby can't stand the old man and she has even said she would love to leave and come home because she is lonely.
This is why I don't really get involved because I understand where she is coming from, but it seems she likes to pick small fights that are pointless. She knows how my daughter is around her sometimes and she knows how much of a handful she is. Once we left her here with two kids for an hour while she was visiting and she said they were a hanful.
She's more then welcome to come to our place and stay as long as she would like to visit.
They have a smaller place so it gets cramped there with all of us and the BF gets annoyed if I want to bring my dog with me there and after a while you can tell my daughter annoys him as well as us because he starts getting snappy with MIL.
All this still doesn't make it okay to act or say the things she does in my opinion. It's hurtful.
Her and I have never had any issues, previously. We used to get along very well and I would talk to her on the phone allthe time, daily. But sometimes I'd say one thing and she would go and tell her other son or FIL and start problems so I have backed off and I am not as talky talky with her as I used to me.