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Originally Posted by QuickSilver  Gypsy & Me, I know you felt very hurt by some of the comments that came about your "late" gift. If I remember correctly, the thread was originally started because some people were trying to figure out who was still waiting for gifts, and your SB was saying she was worried because she was about to go on a long vacation and wouldn't be able to thank you if the gift didn't get there in time. |
It wasn't my SB's post that was the issue, it was the accusations that came afterwards implying that the package wasn't sent and how unfair it was I'd not contacted my buddy and how irresponsible it is to not mail on time so my buddy was waiting weeks after everyone else. It was hard to read that when none of it was true. I know that not all of the posts were aimed at me but even trying to defend my position just caused more issues. It seems whenever someone posts that they still haven't gotten theirs yet people are very fast to think the worse when the deadline for mailing is past.
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Originally Posted by QuickSilver I can absolutely see why you felt hurt by the turn the thread took, I just don't know if there's a way to "illegalize" it. I think the thread was started with good intentions, and there are always going to be cases where things are misinterpreted and take on a life of their own, esp. on the web. Now that we've seen it happen, if a thread like that comes up, old timers can say, hey, maybe the gift is coming from the U.K.! And it will all be settled.  |
If it's after the deadline someone posts a thread saying "I've not got mine
yet but I've had a PM saying that my package is on it's way and to expect it any day now" then I don't see that's complaining. Just posting a thread saying "I've not got mine still" is different and does come off as more of a complaint. If they are concerned enough to post a thread then they should be PMing admin, as the rules already state...
In some cases in the past it's seemed more like a cry for sympathy and a "oh woe is me" type post and YTers, being as they are, are very fast to offer sympathy and like you said those good intentions take on a life of their own, the story gets twisted and people end up hurt. It's happened on more than one occassion and I just feel that by taking away the ability to post and say you've not got it would take away the risk of people getting hurt.
I know people will disagree with my last paragraph but I know a lot of the longer standing members will know and see where I'm coming from with that.