this is a little smart a$$y
but tell him you will work on your stuff but he has to work on his credit and when his is as good as your you two can marry
yes its smart to be financially ready..but things are always changing. finanicially everyone has ups and downs but what counts is how you two handle it togethrer. thats what a marriage is a partnership. life is always ready with a new curve ball...you save up 3 months of salary them bam something happens..
money is always an issue between couples, but if he is starting this way now then i would be concerned about your furture with him. IMO he is putting you down...i can not accept you the way you are today, is what he is saying.
i just see more and more issues with this one..you have the upcoming cost of a wedding how is that going to be arranged? what happens if in this economy you lose your job? how ridiclous would he look if he lost his? what happens if you get pregnant and either need to be resticked to bed rest and take early leave or you dont get paid for time off? what if the baby is ill and you have 100,000 in medical debt.
dont change your self unless you want to change yourself (unless you are doing something illegal..=)
These are all real things and they have happened to us..all of the above
i dated my husband for 3 years we had many ups and downs, him. me. and together. we got engaged. we got pregnant. we had a nice wedding at my parents house. he has crap and i have crap but at the end of the day i wouldnt trade him. there are still finiancial things we are dealing with from back then and we have been married 5 years. but we tough it out together and when one of us loses, we both lose. when one of us win we both win.
we have been together thru job loses, financial down pours, 100,000 in medical debt due to the premature birth of our son. but we are still together. we still love each other. we knew all the problems we were facing when we got married and we still did it because we love each other and at the end of the day we cant stand to be apart from one another. even after a brutal day of arguing and fighting and sometimes even disappointments.
add kids to the mix and you better REALLY love each other..lol
its not always a smart move, but who said love was smart?
good luck hun, you know whats best for you. |