Sounds to me hes worried about your financial life together... here is the thing... in most relationships one person is usually the spender while the other is usually the saver. Thats how financial issues crop up. What he is proposing for you to do is a temporary fix. He is asking you to be prepared to go INTO the marriage financially, but what about the life of the marriage? Is he thinking he is going to take over your finances once you are his wife so that you will always have no debt and money in the bank? He is going to get sick of doing that and you will resent him for it. I truely feel he needs to accept you, all aspects of you, before you guys get married. If he wants to protect himself and his money with a prenup, fine... but you should not have to change your life to accomodate his marriage proposal. Sorry if I sound harsh, Ive learned a lot of hard lessons with guys, and changing yourself and feeling like you are not #1 to the guy you are with are not acceptable in my eyes. I'd rather be alone!
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