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Originally Posted by DanicaBraggs  Oh man this isn't good! You need to nip this in the bud right away!!! I was a young Mom at 21 and single because once the baby came my boyfriend was done playing house.You need to sit down with paper on hand and talk about the expenses of taking care of a baby and how much sleep and privacy you lose.Make sure to tell her that the baby will depend on her always.Be tough on her and say I took over taking care of your dog I won't do the same for this baby.She needs to know the outcome of having a child so young.It is a BIG struggle.Sounds like the bf friend needs to go bye bye.
I feel for what you are going through,not only with the dog but your daughters way of thinking.School is very important,make sure he understand a woman without a degree,struggles because they will never be paid what they are treully worth.Guys can go out and get a job right out of Highschool and do fine,not a woman.Those are facts.Write everything down on cost Rent,Ins,car payment,groceries,ect ect...and then show it to her with a childs cost included.Maybe seeing all this will make her realize to wait until she is out of College and in a good paying job and married.I would LOVE to talk with her and she could come to my house and stay a wk. and take care of my kids,I bet she would change her mind then 
I have a soon to be 13 yr. old daughter who says she is NEVER having kids.I also have a 2 and 3 yr. old so she has expierenced the late nights and the crying.She says there annoying. |
I don't think that there is anything in this world that will get that through her head believe me. I was 14 when I had her and it was a horrible struggle I had to quit school and work as a waitress to buy her diapers and formula and all that good stuff. I was very lucky my dad's ins. covered us both or I don't know what I would have done. I have told her the story over and over and explained to her how hard it was but it went in one ear and out the other. I just last year went and got my GED at 33 years old. I am now going to school to become a RN. She has seen the struggles that I have went through she has seen how much I have had to do without and she also sees that hey look I am 19 in college because so far I have done the right thing unlike my mom who was 33 before she even finished highschool. So she has seen first hand what it can be like not going to school and how making bad decisions can really mess up your life
. I won't say ruin because I don't regret having her or any of my kids but like I tell her if I would have just been smarted and stayed in school and not had any kids until after I was out of college and had a good job that I would have had a much easier life.
Also she is the oldest of 7 she has 4 half siblings and 2 step siblings ages 6-hb,9-ss,12-hb,14-hb,15-ss,17-hs, so she has also had the taste of a baby in the house.
Just wanted to add for any of those who weren't here back then a little history.
Also she was told before she got Bella that she could not have a dog while she was living here but you see that didn't stop her.
Bella has been with us since Dec. 2007 I am not sure how many of you know the story but she was sold way to early (she was a little under 8 weeks i believe) and the morning after she was here (Christmas) she had a drop in sugar almost died I rushed her and my daughter to someone who was able to save her. Well when she was well enough to come home the first thing I did was take her to the vet. He told me to give her pedialite in a syringe every two hours and I had to hand feed her a little every two hours also. She was on medication that had to be given to her twice a day for her poops and some other medicine that I also had to give her but cannot remember what for now. All of the meds and water and food that was given was by me I set my alarm and got up every two hours and gave it to her. Daughter did nothing for her except grab her and show her off when someone new came. Bella was also supposed to be kept under a heat lamp every night which didn't happen because at the time my daughter would sneak her out of the crate (sometime in between feedings) and put her in bed with her. And for those of you who were around then might remember that one night Bella fell from her top bunk to the wood floor. I thanked god my daughter is a messy person and had a pile of clothes on the floor that Bella fell onto or I don't even want to think about what might have happened to her. Well also for those of you who remember I took Bella and put her and her crate in my room from that night on.
Also there was the time that she was told not to hold Sammy standing because this was a new place and he was still very scared (we had just brought him home) but she didn't listen and Sammy jumped from her arms and landed on his neck on the hardwood floor. We were sure he was gone but thanks to all the prayers from YT he survived and is very healthy
. During his stay in the hospital she never once asked about him even when we got home from the vet that night she didn't ask if he was going to be okay or if her was going to make it or anything all she was upset about was that I yelled at her for dropping him. She to everyone telling them how horrible I was for screaming at her and making her feel bad. I had people I didn't even know coming up to me scolding me for yelling at her and I had to tell them the whole story to calm them down it was crazy. Also she never even offered to pay a single penny on any of his vet bills from that either even though she agreed she would pay a portion. So see I could see in the beginning that she was not responsible enough to care for a animal
. But I kept positive and kept thinking she will come around and change and maybe even grow up and she will be fine with Bella but it looks like I was wrong.