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Originally Posted by Miao 
The problem with my guy is, if he's not told to do something, it would never occur to him to do it. If I ask him to do something and not specify when it needs to be done, it either gets forgotten or put off until I have to specify NOW. And he claims to want to provide for me a stress-free life.  I tell him HE is the source of my stress.  |
That's the thing!
It does not even OCCUR to them!! My mom and I said the same thing. I told my mom that it doesn't even "occur" to him to help her with the groceries, or cleaning the kitchen, or whatever. You are SO right!
It's all about the communication, like a few people suggested. The thing is, its ME who needs to learn how to communicate effectively. I was just talking to my mom about it, and whenever I am nagging him to do it, it just sparks a huge argument, and is ineffective. I think I need to sit him down, like someone said, and use "I statements"
Something has got to be done, because how could I have kids with someone who doesn't help!!!!
Everyone has been so great about advice!! Makes me feel a million times better!!! It's also nice to realize that I'm not alone in this either, and that I'm not overreacting about it either. I SOOOO appreciate all of you!!!
