Ann Landers had a pole several years ago asking parents if they had it to do over, would they do it again. Most said "No". You have to know what is right for yourself. It does change your life forever. Not just while they are living at home either. I have two grown children, and they are wonderful. I also have two grown step children, and they are also wonderful. One of my daughters has some mental health issues, and there have been some tough times for her. They are all different. I work for an adoption agency and help prepare couples for parenting. I think that the main thing to remember is that not everyone needs to be a parent. If you are happy with your life, no one or nothing should make you feel less than a person or couple, or even a family just because you are not raising a child. Some people make better parents than others. Children can also cause a perfectly good marriage to have problems. That being said, some people will also have a wonderful life with children and have a perfectly great marriage too. Only you can make that decision. Just make it because you really, really want a child and not because your clock is ticking. Best wishes to you whatever you decide.
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