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Originally Posted by MindieRose  Regardless of the hows or whys of this particular situation, no one can say that someone cannot give their children the attention that they think the children need in any family. Just because someone may have a difficult time with 3 children, doesn't mean that someone cannot give 14 children enough love an attention. Yes, compared to 14, 6 isn't a lot, but my husband and I plan on either having more or adopting. I stay home with my kids, and am probably going back to homeschooling again soon. How many parents have one kid that sits in daycare for 10 hours a day? Kids don't need iphones and thousand dollar wardrobes. The ones that are provided with those things usually grow up to be selfish and greedy anyway. We don't get any assistance from the state at all, but no one can decide that they "don't want their money to go to supporting this family". I don't want my tax dollars supporting most things that it does such as stem cell research (which passed in this state now) and planned parenthood providing abortions. I have no control over it though, aside from placing my vote at election time. I guess I would rather have my tax money go to supporting someone trying to feed their kids rather then kill them.
It has sounded from the minute it was released that there were some rather unethical decisions made on the part of the fertility clinic, and I cannot fathom why someone would implant or have implanted, 8 babies. I can understand the outrage there. I cannot stand by though while people are saying that NO mother could provide enough attention for 14 children. Just because you personally could not, doesnt mean that no one can. God designed everyone different, and designed all children different that are made for different families. Sometimes when a person at the store asks me if all these kids are really mine, and I tell them they are, they will say "better you than me!" and I turn and say "you're right! It is better!". I know someone personally with 14 children, and half of them are grown and out of the house now. Every single one of those out of the house are incredible people. They are selfless, happy, great parents, have successful marriages, and none feel as if they didn't get enough attention growing up. |
I take my hat of to you for taking on the responsibility of raising 6 children. It is great that you can do so in the "normal" environment with you and your husband. I see so much unhappiness in people/kids with non-traditional families whether they are single moms by choice or divorced parents. No one, I think, is saying that if someone desires to have 14 or 20 kids they shouldn't. But you have to wonder why and how come someone would want to risk the lives of the babies to do so. You say that you do not want to fund stem cell research or planned parenthood but why would you want to fund someone who has no regard for the health and welfare of the child/children? If given the option to have an chance to have a healthy child or take a chance and knowingly put that embryo (in this case 8 of them) in jeopardy to start with, what is the sense of that? I hope those children will be happy and healthy, but let's be realistic, some of those 8 have special needs. Taking the cost and who will wind up paying for it, out, is it fair to knowingly put that child through that?
I have heard so many young girls, say that they take care of their kids. I have to ask, if they are taking care of their kids, why don't they take a look at what you can offer them before you have them? Take a look at where it is that they are before decide to have babies. Are you in a place that gives that child/children the best start in life? the best advantages-not financial but emotional support. If someone wants to have babies, then so be it, but as most have said on this thread, I don't want to fund someone who has no regard for the welfare of their children first and foremost.