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veguroev · 01-30-2009, 07:52 PM

I'll be 36 this year and have been married 7 of them. I was never worried about motherhood up until now.
I guess my clock is ticking and even though I don't feel ready to be a mom I think is time for us to have a child. Just one! no more!
I really enjoy my lifestyle so is my husband. We enjoy the dogs and cats and going for walks and just having the house for ourselves and spending our money in whatever we want. We both know that once you have a child your life changes for the rest of your life, but at the same time we feel like is time to add a family member.
But then I think of all the worries parents go thru with their kids. Sometimes even if parents are good parents kids get out of hand,rebellious and misbehaved to the point that parents can't handle them. I' talking when the kids turn into teenagers. I'm just afraid of all those things that come with having a kid.
I thought I gave my mom hell when in my teens, but I was nice compared to the things I see now a days with teenagers and the way they act.
But then I think too that I'm not getting any younger neither is hubby and the more we wait, the dangerous it gets, especially for me because at my age it start to get riskier and riskier to bare a child.
I know that all this is personal and is going to be up to us if we decide to do it. I just want to ask your opnions on motherhood and if you've had any issues with your kids growing up? Am I being selfish for not wanting to have kids? or is it more selfish having kids without wanting them?
I guess I'm confused... or just don't know if I'm ready to be a skinbaby's mom.

01-30-2009, 07:52 PM	#1
veguroev Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Space City Posts: 2,079	Motherhood question I'll be 36 this year and have been married 7 of them. I was never worried about motherhood up until now. I guess my clock is ticking and even though I don't feel ready to be a mom I think is time for us to have a child. Just one! no more! I really enjoy my lifestyle so is my husband. We enjoy the dogs and cats and going for walks and just having the house for ourselves and spending our money in whatever we want. We both know that once you have a child your life changes for the rest of your life, but at the same time we feel like is time to add a family member. But then I think of all the worries parents go thru with their kids. Sometimes even if parents are good parents kids get out of hand,rebellious and misbehaved to the point that parents can't handle them. I' talking when the kids turn into teenagers. I'm just afraid of all those things that come with having a kid. I thought I gave my mom hell when in my teens, but I was nice compared to the things I see now a days with teenagers and the way they act. But then I think too that I'm not getting any younger neither is hubby and the more we wait, the dangerous it gets, especially for me because at my age it start to get riskier and riskier to bare a child. I know that all this is personal and is going to be up to us if we decide to do it. I just want to ask your opnions on motherhood and if you've had any issues with your kids growing up? Am I being selfish for not wanting to have kids? or is it more selfish having kids without wanting them? I guess I'm confused... or just don't know if I'm ready to be a skinbaby's mom. __________________ IF THERE ARE NO DOGS IN HEAVEN, THEN WHEN I DIE I WANT TO GO WHERE THEY GO. CHIKIS, OSCARITO,JEROME, KIKI, AND NEGRITA.