While I don't agree with the name calling, especially when it comes to your mom, I CAN relate to the OP's problem.
I am 27 and I still live at home. The reason I still live here is I have spent the past 5 years helping my mom take care of her mom, who suffered from Alzheimer's disease, and then later, cancer. Eventually, I decided to go back to school, and while I still worked my way through that (and paid rent and various other bills), it became necessary for me to be here. My grandma sadly passed away this summer, so I'm no longer here for her... I'm here to get back on my feet financially after graduating.
My mom and I definitely don't see eye to eye, and I worry about things that will come up when I get my puppy, if I am still here. She's excited about me getting a dog, and wants to help. But, I remember with our first dog, she fed him wayyyy too many treats and a lot of people food. We both agree on the no people food rule, but the treat rule I am not so sure of! So we'll have to see and work it out between us. I'll probably end up keeping a container that I will put a few treats in for each day, and when it's gone, it's gone!
In the end, it's her house and I will need to compromise. Even though I help with the mortgage and a lot of the bills, the house is not in my name. One day soon I'll have free reign and will be able to raise my dog exactly the way I want, but until then I will have to learn how to bend a bit... as much as I'll hate it!
Oh, and by the way.. I disagree that you can always tell that its a young person from a brash or confrontational post... come visit me where I work and I will show you some rude people, and they are all over 40 years old.
