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Originally Posted by MindieRose  If there is one thing that I have no sympathy for, it's people who play the victim card. And it sounds like her family has handed her an entire deck of them! You said that her dependancy on drugs and alcohol caused her to have an affair with a married man, but she made that choice to start drinking and using, and even though it impared her judgement, God has promised that we will never be put in a moral situation that we cannot get out of, so she is still accountable for that. Drugs and alcohol cannot control you unless you let them. At some point a conscoius decision was made. Believe me, I have had my world crash down on me several times in my life (as a young child and adult), moreso than most people that are addicts, and not once have I allowed myself to go down that road. This society anymore loves to make people feel like nothing is their fault and that they are victims. Do not allow her to be the victim anymore. She can be a conquerer if she chooses! We all can! You can be there for her without turning your life upside down. Most of all, you can pray pray pray for her. Only her and God can change her heart and her mentality. It doesn't sound to me like she has really made a change. It also doesn't sound to me like her family are the best people to have around her. The real victim in this is that unborn baby. I pray that she wakes up before the baby comes.
Blessings to you for being such a faithful friend to her. I pray that you receive wisdom along the way too, so that you can help her through all of this without letting her manipulate you. |
Yes,
I have had to hear that she drank and used drugs because she was depressed, because her Mom made her give her first child up for adoption. She was 19, her parents chose not to help her, and she had no other place to live. They took her to a Baptist Home for unwed mothers, and dropped her off. They told her she could come back--alone.
I heard she messed w a married man because she had no self esteem (she is 6'2" and very beautiful when she cares about her looks)
Her sister is in nursing school, she is a good person, but she acted in the best interest of her MOM, not her sister, by misusing the money.
Her Mom was/is an addict herself-she readily admits she laces her coffee with meth every morning, to get her thru the day. I told the rehab this, but they still allow her Mom to visit
