[MindieRose]

If there is one thing that I have no sympathy for, it's people who play the victim card. And it sounds like her family has handed her an entire deck of them! You said that her dependancy on drugs and alcohol caused her to have an affair with a married man, but she made that choice to start drinking and using, and even though it impared her judgement, God has promised that we will never be put in a moral situation that we cannot get out of, so she is still accountable for that. Drugs and alcohol cannot control you unless you let them. At some point a conscoius decision was made. Believe me, I have had my world crash down on me several times in my life (as a young child and adult), moreso than most people that are addicts, and not once have I allowed myself to go down that road. This society anymore loves to make people feel like nothing is their fault and that they are victims. Do not allow her to be the victim anymore. She can be a conquerer if she chooses! We all can! You can be there for her without turning your life upside down. Most of all, you can pray pray pray for her. Only her and God can change her heart and her mentality. It doesn't sound to me like she has really made a change. It also doesn't sound to me like her family are the best people to have around her. The real victim in this is that unborn baby. I pray that she wakes up before the baby comes.
Blessings to you for being such a faithful friend to her. I pray that you receive wisdom along the way too, so that you can help her through all of this without letting her manipulate you.