[margaritaville]

I know it's hard but you need to sit down and look at priorities.
1. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.
2. You have a family of your own (and children) Children do not need to be exposed to this behavior.
3. Your husband (and you?) is working to make ends meet in this ecomony and by supporting her you are taking away from your own family. She has shown by her selfish, drug and alcohol related behavior that she really could care less about others.
4. She is not your responsibility. I commend you for trying to accept it but her own family has had enough. She needs to accept responsibilty for herself and not blame others for her misfortune. I feel for this child but the child is not your resposibility. Hopefully something good will happen for the child but if she continues on this road.....
5. She has an outside visit coming up---do they test her when she returns for drugs and alcohol?
I wish you luck. Please do not feel you have failed her--she has to take the responsibility and until she is able to do that she will continue to use and blame others. I would just explain to her once and for the last time that you love her as a friend but that the time has come that you need to take care of yourself for a change.