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Originally Posted by Sookie  I have, unfortunately, first hand knowledge of this. My brother died of a drug overdose. You have to cut the strings. Let her know that you are there when she is better, but right now she is NOT better - she is still self-destructive. Part of her getting healthy is to do it entirely on her own. A clean day in rehab isn't "nothing"; but you are right in that it isn't enough. She has a long road ahead of her and the way she is acting right now isn't very promising IMHO. Let her go - she'll come back some day and she definately will remember all you've done for her. You're a great friend.  |
You are right, I should't have minimized the fact that she IS in rehab, I said it out of frustration.
I get so tired of her preaching about how much she has changed, when her actions say otherwise. Right now, she is in a controlled environment where she has no choice BUT to succeed. She is also not so stupid that she would jeapordize the baby by drinking. The rehab is her saving grace, she has not CHOICE but to do what they say, or she will be homeless!
I am also tired of hearing her laugh and make fun of the other women there. She thinks she is better. She lost her home, and her job. Dependency on drugs and alchol caused her to be involved with a married man for 14 years, instead of finding someone that would marry her.
The only reason WHY she is there, is because I forced the issue. I met with her Dr. and caseworker with her mother, and gave them the dates and times she had been in hospitals/short term treatments, so they would not release her until we had a safe supervised place for her. I went to her home and packed her belongings, and drove her the 100 miles straight to the rehab. She was never alone, or even returned to her home, after that point.
I hope I did what the Lord wanted me to do in this situation. Maybe my purpose was met, and it is time for me to leave her..