Oh hun, I know you are just trying to do what's best. However, you are enabling her. Enabling her to be irresponsible, rude and selfish. Addicts have to hit "rock bottom" before they will actually change. You have been a pillow over the rock bottom. She needs to hit it and deal with it on her own.
You helped her get into rehab, which was an amazing thing to do, and the right thing. However, she needs to take it from there. What is she going to do for you if your marriage is ruined by this (and it can be)??? The answer is nothing.
You need to put her things in pre-payed storage, return her money, and discontinue being power of attorney. Guaranteed she will burn through the money, and become very lonely when she realizes she burnt all her bridges. However, this needs to happen. She is in a safe place, so you don't have to worry about her being in the street, and it needs to be up to her at this point.
Focus on YOU and your family and relationships. Bless you for being so caring. I am completely jaded from what I do for a living, but can honestly tell you this is not going to change until she hits hard. |