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  could it be that the female isn't exactly ready for him?  if it is his first time he will have a tendancy to wear himsself out trying.  You probably should separate then for overnight or several hours then try it out again.  And yes, you do have to be there so you can hold your female.  he might be skiddish at letting you help since he is just learning.  Believe me, he will get it right when it's time if there is no great size difference and he can reach her.  |