I would tell him. Trust is a very important element in a marriage and little things like this can affect it. If you know that those emails are not going anywhere it's better to tell him. That way you'll be clean. If he sees those emails and you haven't told him he's gonna think you're hiding something, even if you're not. So, telling him it's a way of covering yourself of any misunderstanding. Anyway, your ex is the one who contacted you in the first place and you told him you don't want anything to do with him.
As a chistian myself I know I need to forgive, even if I'm hurt by people. Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. You choose to forgive someone because it's what God wants, even if I'm still hurt. God will take care of my healing. If easier to heal when you forgive than when you don't. That doesn't mean that you're ok with what he's done to you, but it means that you have overcome it.
You can tell him that you forgive him but you don't want to be in contact with him. You're a happy now and he only brings painful memories. I would tell him that you're sorry he's not happy, but that's a result of our own life choices.
I think that if you tell him that you don't forgive him it means that you're still hurting because there are still feelings going on. By telling him you forgive it means that your strong and you have overcome everything.
But that's just what I would do. |