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Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom  I like what Tammy has said.
I also think that from your reaction, you're still very "hooked in" to this man - probably bc he wounded you so terribly. This may be your opportunity to finally set those feelings free and unburden yourself. I don't mean unburden as in - let 'er rip. I mean - say something like what Tammy is suggesting and then affirm to him and yourself in the email: "Yes, I forgive you. We no longer are tied to each other in any way or have any connection to each other. The past is in the past and I let it go. I am happy my life turned out this way and I wish you well." Or something to that effect - so that you're setting the feelings free somehow and cutting the tie. And letting him know that he does NOT have his hooks in you. Hope it goes well. |
That's a really good post. I really do think you should tell your husband. It is much better that he find out now than later on. I also think you should tell your ex- "of course I forgive you buddy!! In fact, I THANK YOU!!!! I would never have found the love of my life if things hadn't worked out the way they had. Hope everything works great for you."
Leave it at that. Seriously. Good luck!