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Originally Posted by TammyJM  Tell him that you are sorry for his misfortune, but thankful for the life learning experience that he aided you in. I would also be sure to tell him that, as much as you would love to hear more of his sob story, he is married and that is the person that he should be turning to. Tell him that you are madly in love with your husband and that he and you have discussed the fact that your ex has emailed and you both are in agreement that he needs to NOT do this again. |
I like what Tammy has said.
I also think that from your reaction, you're still very "hooked in" to this man - probably bc he wounded you so terribly. This may be your opportunity to finally set those feelings free and unburden yourself. I don't mean unburden as in - let 'er rip. I mean - say something like what Tammy is suggesting and then affirm to him and yourself in the email: "Yes, I forgive you. We no longer are tied to each other in any way or have any connection to each other. The past is in the past and I let it go. I am happy my life turned out this way and I wish you well." Or something to that effect - so that you're setting the feelings free somehow and cutting the tie. And letting him know that he does NOT have his hooks in you. Hope it goes well.