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veguroev · 08-14-2008, 06:43 PM

14 years ago, I was going to marry my boyfriend. We had everything ready, it was going to be on October 10th, 1994. I was in love, and the happiest person in the world. 10 days before the wedding boyfriend comes to my house to tell me that he has something very important to tell me. We sat down and he told me that he had to leave out of the city for work reasons, I told him that he didn't have to worry about anything because everything was ready for the BIG day. He looked at me and told me that there wasn't going to be a wedding. He didn't want to get married, he wanted to live and have fun and meet girls and be single for a long time before he decided to get married. I told him that I would wait for him as long as he wanted.... I was so in love, he was my first boyfriend, I didn't want to loose him. He told me that he didn't want me to do that and the reason of calling of the wedding is because he didn't want to marry me. I was in shock, I couldn't believe it. I wanted to die so bad. Life didn't make any sense to me without him.
He took off. Leaving me with the pain and with the embarrassment of calling people to tell them that there was no wedding. Sell all the stuff we had bought for our apartment. Fortunately, my family was very supportive and helped me with all that while I was in bed wanting to die.
I stopped going to school, I stopped going to work, I stopped eating. I slept all day for weeks, until Mom told me, you had to get up and go to a psychologist you can't be this way any longer. I went to a few sessions, but nobody could help me, my pain was so deep that it was killing me, but decided to do something and register for the following semester in college, and started working out. One night, Mom and sisters told me that ex boyfriend had gotten married to his neighbor!!!!. That was 2 months after he had dumped me!! needles to say, I went back to zombie mode...until one day my mom told me that she had everything ready for me to come to the US to study English, passport and visa in hand she told me you are living in 2 days, you are staying with your godparents and they are going to take care of you while you are there.
I came to the US and like it, everything was new to me I met new people, a different culture, trying to adapt to this new world was my challenge. Then I started to see things different and I liked being single! I started dating again.!,
It's been 13 something years since then and I'm now married and love hubby and love my life, yes we've had rough times, but no marriage is perfect, plus we love each other to let our marriage fail.
There was only one thing, I always said that If I saw my ex again, I would thank him for leaving me, because if I had marry him I wouldn't had the opportunity to live and discover the wonders of life and I would also ask him why he left me for that woman if he knew he meant the world to me.
Well, be careful what you wish for! he ran into a friend of mine last Christmas and my friend gave him my email address. I didn't know any of this until yesterday, my friend never mentioned anything to me.
Ex boyfriend emails me yesterday and tell me he thought a lot before he could email me, but he decided to do it.
When I opened my email last night I saw his name and I was like WTF!!!, so I read it and he tells me If I'm ok, that he wants to know about me and what's of my life and blah blah blah..... I reply back and ask him why he is emailing me what do you want I asked him. He just wants me to forgive him for what he did to me, he said that he acted like a coward. He knows he hurt me but he wants me to forgive him. I asked him if he was about to die or why he is doing this now.....why does he want me to forgive him??? I have so many questions, I'm mad, I'm hurt, I'm confused.... Then he asks me at the end of the email if I'm happy in my marriage, because he is not!!! WTF!!!
I feel bad for replying, I shouldn't had done it, but I want him to know that he is not welcome back into my life at all.
All this just happened last night and today. I haven't old anything to my husband. He knows the whole ordeal, but he doesn't know about the emails. Should I tell him? or, should I not bother, since this isn't going anywhere?
What would you do?

08-14-2008, 06:43 PM	#1
veguroev Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Space City Posts: 2,079	Love, why does it have to hurt? 14 years ago, I was going to marry my boyfriend. We had everything ready, it was going to be on October 10th, 1994. I was in love, and the happiest person in the world. 10 days before the wedding boyfriend comes to my house to tell me that he has something very important to tell me. We sat down and he told me that he had to leave out of the city for work reasons, I told him that he didn't have to worry about anything because everything was ready for the BIG day. He looked at me and told me that there wasn't going to be a wedding. He didn't want to get married, he wanted to live and have fun and meet girls and be single for a long time before he decided to get married. I told him that I would wait for him as long as he wanted.... I was so in love, he was my first boyfriend, I didn't want to loose him. He told me that he didn't want me to do that and the reason of calling of the wedding is because he didn't want to marry me. I was in shock, I couldn't believe it. I wanted to die so bad. Life didn't make any sense to me without him. He took off. Leaving me with the pain and with the embarrassment of calling people to tell them that there was no wedding. Sell all the stuff we had bought for our apartment. Fortunately, my family was very supportive and helped me with all that while I was in bed wanting to die. I stopped going to school, I stopped going to work, I stopped eating. I slept all day for weeks, until Mom told me, you had to get up and go to a psychologist you can't be this way any longer. I went to a few sessions, but nobody could help me, my pain was so deep that it was killing me, but decided to do something and register for the following semester in college, and started working out. One night, Mom and sisters told me that ex boyfriend had gotten married to his neighbor!!!!. That was 2 months after he had dumped me!! needles to say, I went back to zombie mode...until one day my mom told me that she had everything ready for me to come to the US to study English, passport and visa in hand she told me you are living in 2 days, you are staying with your godparents and they are going to take care of you while you are there. I came to the US and like it, everything was new to me I met new people, a different culture, trying to adapt to this new world was my challenge. Then I started to see things different and I liked being single! I started dating again.!, It's been 13 something years since then and I'm now married and love hubby and love my life, yes we've had rough times, but no marriage is perfect, plus we love each other to let our marriage fail. There was only one thing, I always said that If I saw my ex again, I would thank him for leaving me, because if I had marry him I wouldn't had the opportunity to live and discover the wonders of life and I would also ask him why he left me for that woman if he knew he meant the world to me. Well, be careful what you wish for! he ran into a friend of mine last Christmas and my friend gave him my email address. I didn't know any of this until yesterday, my friend never mentioned anything to me. Ex boyfriend emails me yesterday and tell me he thought a lot before he could email me, but he decided to do it. When I opened my email last night I saw his name and I was like WTF!!!, so I read it and he tells me If I'm ok, that he wants to know about me and what's of my life and blah blah blah..... I reply back and ask him why he is emailing me what do you want I asked him. He just wants me to forgive him for what he did to me, he said that he acted like a coward. He knows he hurt me but he wants me to forgive him. I asked him if he was about to die or why he is doing this now.....why does he want me to forgive him??? I have so many questions, I'm mad, I'm hurt, I'm confused.... Then he asks me at the end of the email if I'm happy in my marriage, because he is not!!! WTF!!! I feel bad for replying, I shouldn't had done it, but I want him to know that he is not welcome back into my life at all. All this just happened last night and today. I haven't old anything to my husband. He knows the whole ordeal, but he doesn't know about the emails. Should I tell him? or, should I not bother, since this isn't going anywhere? What would you do? __________________ IF THERE ARE NO DOGS IN HEAVEN, THEN WHEN I DIE I WANT TO GO WHERE THEY GO. CHIKIS, OSCARITO,JEROME, KIKI, AND NEGRITA.