That's how I feel too. My best friend lives far from me, and far from all the other bridesmaids as well, so my idea was having a girls weekend in the city she just moved from (she still has tons of friends there) and to see if the rest of the bridesmaids would mind chipping in to pay for her share of a hotel room (I'm sure they wouldn't mind!). And we could just have FUN together. And I suppose if she wants the embarassment we could have one night of making her embarassed
Anyways, that's the kind of thing I would like, and we're pretty much the exact same person (which I think is why she trusted me enough to do all this for her!)