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Originally Posted by nikkinack  Speaking as someone who has went through something similar, I have a bad mom and my father passed away. My Brother raised me and did the best he could but when I was younger I hated him, why I don’t really know but I did. It was not until I was in my 20 that I realized that everything that he did was for my own good. Just remember some day she will thank you, even if it takes a while she will one day understand. |
yeah I had issues with what our mom caused. I had many suicide attempts and was told it was just a phase but I found ways to deal with it after over 4 years of suicide attempts and near ones where I snap out of it then had to force myself to throw up. It was a friend who started my recovery because she was bulimic and we used each other to slowly recover. and then my husband is what made it official I still have thoughts at times but singing, writing and working on graphics with the pc helps me keep myself away from that kind of thing. It's all she needs to help. I did it without meds. But I think I would of been abel to deal with it if I had a therapist and some meds. I think she needs to talk to her dad and ask for a counselor. I wanted to be a counselor for teens because i think that's the crucial age that decides what kind of an adult you will be and with all the changes and judgementalness around you and parents don't seem to realize the severity of depression these days. Even if it's "just a phase" it doesn't mean it can't end deadly.
Ciera is just like my older sister.. she acted out due to past things that happened and she just wanted dad to ask us what was wrong and I did the opposite(perfect child.. almost straight A's in more extra activities then I can count, did community volunteering, 4-h.. etc) To try to get my dads attention. But if she keeps going downhill I still think she needs to be fought for and not given up like her dad has done. But he was never a good guy I still just hate him and i think Ciera and Alex have surpressed what he did.
I know in time she will snap out of it. But the worst feeling for me at her age was feeling friendless, like no one cared about me at all and if it wasn't for maria(who lived in kansas and I lived inohio) I don't think i would be alive. I don't want her to feel the same as I did because I know thats what depression does it puts you in a mind set where you believe no one gives a crap about you and that you cause all the problems. I just wish i was there to I dunno shake her and try to wake her up and drive her to a counselor. To try to spend time with her and bring back the preppy perky little girl she use to be.