[4doggiemama]

My heart really goes out to you. I watched my dh be nearly left out of his parent's will because he has been a great provider. His brother inherited the farm, cattle, equipment, 2 houses--he's never had to borrow a penny in his life. It was all worth lots and lots of money. My heart nearly broke as I watched my dh feel worthless, like his parents didn't love him; that they held it against him that he didn't remain on the farm. He was determined, though, that he was not going to alienate his brother. We don't have much to do with them now, but they still are on talking terms. It doesn't matter what age you are but it hurts when you feel second best. The ultimate gift you give yourself is not let it destroy you. My guess is that it will be an ongoing fight for you to not let it get the best of you. Accept that fact and fight a good fight against anger and hate. In closing I must say that I have great admiration for my dh.